LLGBTC Youth Services: Coming Out
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COMING OUT
Sexuality can be very difficult to work out, especially when you are a teenager. Our one 2 one advice service is always here to help. If you would like to book an appointment you can e-mail our youth work team alex@llgbc.com
What is Coming Out?
Coming out is when people who have decided they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender share this with other people. This might be friends, people at work, family or people supporting them.
Some people find it easy, for others it can be one of the hardest times of their lives. Everyone has their own experience of coming out and only you know when it is right for you to take this step.
Even once you have told someone, it probably won’t end there. People who have been “out” for years still have to make frequent decisions on whether or not to tell new people about their sexuality or gender identity.
Some people may be out to their families, but not at work – its a long process and is different for everyone.
Always wait until you are ready to come out, don't let yourself be pushed into it
It will be easier if you are happy about yourself, and rest assured, it gets easier every time you tell someone new.
Take time to feel comfortable with your own sexuality, talk about your feelings with someone you trust, a youth worker, teacher or friend, who will not break your confidentiality.
Only start to tell other people, when you feel it is the right time to do so.
Try telling a close friend first, remember you do not have to come out to everyone in one go
Don't feel you have to rush into having sex, take your time, make sure its with someone you really want to be with.
When you tell your parents, give them time to think things through and ask you questions, remember that this is also a big thing for them.
Don't feel you have to change who you are to fit with a stereotype, be proud of who you are as an individual.
Don't feel you have to rush out to gay pubs/clubs. The gay scene can be a fun and exciting place, but it is always best to take your time in exploring it.
What do we mean by CONFIDENTIAL
You can talk to youth worker about any issues that may be troubling you in a confidential and secure way, WE WILL NOT discuss your issues with anyone else UNLESS you are at severe risk of harm, in which case we will refer you onto the appropriate agency, but will continue to support you every step of the way.
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